Name: Candice
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Location: PE
Age: 25
Status: single
“Ultimately, what would work is just if the guy is confident and not overbearing, interesting to talk to and happy, takes an interest in what I am saying and doesn’t come across as arrogant. I like cocky and confident but there is a fine line between that and arrogance.”
It’s generally accepted that pickup lines don’t work, what works for you?
My opinion on that is nothing really works or doesn’t work. What I mean is that if I see a guy and I find him interesting or attractive, he can say anything to me and I will probably go with it, whether it is a really cheesy pickup line or just arb conversation, and vice versa. If a guy that I am really not attracted to or interested in comes up and says the most profound thing ever I would probably not go with it, regardless of what he is saying. Having said that, I can’t say that first impressions hold out and mean very much, but in terms of that initial contact that is how I perceive it.
Ultimately, what would work is just if the guy is confident and not overbearing, interesting to talk to and happy, takes an interest in what I am saying and doesn’t come across as arrogant. I like cocky and confident but there is a fine line between that and arrogance.
Have you ever made the first move?
No, never ever. I like to give subtle hints but I would never make an obvious move, unless I am absolutely 100% sure that the guy is going to respond well and I will not be rejected, even then I am cautious. I like to be pursued.
How do you normally tell if a guy is interested or into you?
I guess if you catch him looking at you the whole time, casually touching you when he talks, staying in conversation for an extended time, also what the conversation topic evolves into. Usually if the topic turns to sex or something similar you can assume that he is thinking about sex and you in the same context…….
Here is an age old question. How soon should he call after you exchanged contact details?
I think not sooner that the following evening, but not later than 2 days, so if you met him on Friday, soonest sat evening, latest Monday morning maybe. But to drag it out longer than that is just torture. When it comes to that, once it goes past 2 days your infatuation turns to frustration and annoyance and it changes the whole dynamic of the situation.
What is your ideal first date event?
Something non-threatening, maybe something similar to the context in which you met, because that is then familiar territory, and you will be more comfortable with him there. I kind of find a dinner date quite threatening, because there is so much pressure for conversation, so something more activity-based would be good, where you can also see the person’s personality showing through, not just what they want you to see. Maybe something like mini-golf, or even something with friends, like a board game evening.
What in your opinion is the biggest mistake that people make on a first date?
Shagging…………. HAHA!!!! Just kidding. I don’t actually know, can’t think of a really bad first date experience. But in all seriousness, don’t shag.
What’s the worst thing a guy has done to impress you?
Told me how much he earns. That was the biggest turn-off ever. Especially after saying, “I don’t really like to talk about money.” Or something similar like casually flashing his wallet, credit cards or car keys.
Or when you can clearly see that a guy has set up a conversation topic so that he can tell you something that he thinks is impressive. Once a guy asked me what suburb I live in, and I told him and asked him the same question, so he mentioned one which is quite far out of town, so I said “oh, that’s quite a drive” so he said…. Haha!!!
“yes it is, but in my Z3 I can do the drive in 4 minutes”. That was the end of the conversation.
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